Not every piece of feedback is positive. Sometimes, managers need to nip a potential performance issue in the bud or turn conflict into a learning opportunity for their team. But even the best managers can struggle to give negative feedback, despite how valuable and essential it is. Handled the wrong way, negative feedback can damage morale, employee engagement, and retention—it can even backfire, exacerbating the performance issue you’re bringing up.
Managed correctly, even negative feedback can have a positive impact on your team, improving trust between managers and their direct reports, improving employee performance, and resolving conflicts before they get worse. Properly giving negative feedback requires preparation, structure, emotional intelligence, documentation, and follow-up. This can be done with the right framework and processes, especially when you use dedicated performance management systems like 15Five.
Key takeaways
- Preparation determines effectiveness. Gather objective data and clarify the exact performance gap before the conversation.
- Direct, specific language builds credibility. Avoid vague criticism and focus on observable behaviors and business impact.
- Delivering negative feedback requires empathy and accountability. Balance honesty with support.
- Ongoing feedback prevents review-day surprises. Continuous documentation improves employee performance reviews.
- Structured tools improve consistency and fairness. Platforms like 15Five Perform help managers conduct performance reviews, track progress, and write stronger evaluations.
Why delivering negative feedback matters in employee performance
Feedback is essential for improving employee performance over time. Every bit of feedback an employee receives is a data point they can use to change the way they work and double down on what they’re doing well. While positive feedback can identify what they’re doing well and encourage them to do more of it, negative feedback is just as essential. It’s not about punishing employees for poor performance; it’s a tool for helping them grow.
When managers go out of their way to avoid giving their teams negative feedback, they’re not just potentially stifling that growth; they’re potentially harming their team’s cohesion by ignoring conflict and preventing growth for the organization as a whole. Individual performance contributes to the organization’s overall performance, and negative feedback is an essential part of aligning that performance at every level. It smooths out issues and misunderstandings, and handles conflicts before they can create broader problems.
Like many things, negative feedback is a manager’s responsibility. Being able to properly deliver feedback is a core part of leading a team, whether that’s positive or negative feedback. Managers have a direct hand in their team’s long-term performance and in building accountability for each member. A strong ability to deliver negative feedback makes performance reviews and other performance management initiatives more effective, as well.
How to prepare for a performance review involving difficult feedback
While some negative feedback needs to be delivered as soon as possible to handle a potential conflict, most of it can be given during a performance review. If you know an upcoming performance review requires delivering negative feedback, a little bit of preparation can go a long way.
Start with objective data
Before you bring any negative feedback to a performance review, you need clear data. That data can help you identify whether a performance issue is a recurring trend or a blip, as well as quantify the impact it might have on other teams.
Performance metrics can both give you a baseline to compare issues against and quantify these issues. When preparing for a performance review, link a potential performance issue with broader goals, KPIs, and previously-discussed expectations. This will help you clarify any issues and avoid vague statements and misunderstandings.
If you don’t have a strong HR data process at your organization, look into dedicated performance management platforms like 15Five. These tools can turn performance reviews, engagement surveys, and other HR initiatives
Identify the core issue
Negative feedback needs to be delivered with tact. Performance issues need to be communicated as an issue to fix, separate from the individual, rather than as a character flaw. That means looking at issues and determining if they’re symptoms of a deeper issue.
From there, that issue should be tied to broader business goals, to show employees how a positive change can have outsized impacts on collaborators and other teams. These questions allow you to go past the surface level and answer an important question: “What, specifically, needs to change?”
Anticipate emotional reactions
No matter how prepared you are or how gently you deliver your feedback, there’s always the potential of an emotional reaction. Performance reviews are already stressful as they are; adding negative feedback can ramp that up. As a manager, here are some of the reactions you can expect and how to respond:
- Defensiveness: An employee can share their perspective when receiving negative feedback to offer context you might not have. But if they’re truly being defensive, they’ll counter all your feedback with their own arguments. If this happens, it’s important to remind them you’re not attacking them or their character, but trying to address an issue you need their help to resolve.
- Silence or disengagement: Some employees might respond to difficult feedback by disengaging from your performance review. They’ll grow quiet or give short answers to your questions. In these situations, you’ll want to remind them that you’re trying to work with them, not trying to punish them.
- Anger or emotional dysregulation: When an employee has a strong emotional reaction to your negative feedback, the best approach is typically to take a small break, allowing them to control their emotions before continuing.
Align feedback with future development
Feedback should never be given in isolation, with no path forward. Even negative feedback should be tied to growth opportunities, reinforcing that feedback is about an issue to fix rather than a problem employee. Employees should be given clear options for support as they work on a performance issue, whether that’s coaching, mentoring, or additional training.
Performance review tips for managers: How to deliver negative feedback effectively
Now that you’ve seen the kind of preparation managers need to make, here’s how you can deliver negative feedback more effectively during a performance review.
Lead with clarity (not an apology)
Many managers try to defuse the discomfort of delivering negative feedback by leading with an apology. Unfortunately, this sets the wrong tone for the conversation. First, it implies that negative feedback is wrong (i.e., something you need to apologize for in the first place). Second, it can create a negative reaction in employees, making them feel like something is being done to them.
While you might be tempted to use language that softens the delivery of your feedback, this can muddle your message, making a resolution less likely. Keep your feedback clear, direct, and respectful.
Focus on specific behaviors
Feedback shouldn’t be based on impressions and rumors. Give the employee clear, observable actions that contribute to the behaviors you need to see change. If you can, support these actions with data.
The goal isn’t to label an employee as a problem or the kind of person who acts in a certain way. Your focus should be on the actions you’ve observed and their impacts on the employee’s team and the organization. Draw a clear causal link between the actions that need to change and the impacts you’re seeing.
Balance directness with empathy
While you don’t want to start a performance review with an apology or use overly soft language, you do need to show empathy when delivering negative feedback. You want to be direct about the actions that need correcting and the impacts they have. But you also need to acknowledge the efforts employees have made and recognize their strengths where appropriate.
Avoid common mistakes
Here’s a quick list of mistakes managers often make when delivering negative feedback in performance reviews:
- Overloading reviews with too many issues: If you need to address multiple performance issues, you might want to prioritize the most impactful ones for a performance review. Smaller issues can be addressed in 1-on-1s and similar check-ins to avoid overwhelming an employee.
- Comparing employees to one another: While on the surface it might seem like you’re just setting an example for an employee struggling with a specific issue, in practice, this will just build resentment and animosity between employees.
- Using annual reviews as first attempts at correction: A performance issue shouldn’t come as a surprise for anyone. They should be identified early, with attempts at addressing them made in 1-on-1s and other check-ins.
How to conduct performance reviews that minimize defensiveness
Preparing for your performance review and learning to give feedback in the right way are two important pillars for handling negative feedback. Another pillar? Properly structuring the way your teams handle feedback more broadly.
Eliminate surprises
A culture of continuous feedback allows employees and managers alike to know where they stand throughout the year, rather than relying exclusively on performance reviews. Regular pulse surveys, 1-on-1s, and check-ins allow both employees and managers to share feedback.
This allows performance issues to be identified and addressed early, even beyond the scope of a performance review. When these conversations are documented in tools like 15Five, no negative feedback comes as a surprise.
Structure the review conversation
In too many organizations, performance reviews vary widely between departments and even from year to year. Here’s a quick structure you can use for your performance reviews:
- Revisit goals, ensuring they’re still relevant and reviewing performance.
- Acknowledge accomplishments to start the conversation positively.
- Discuss areas for improvement, delivering negative feedback when necessary.
- Align on a development plan, addressing potential performance issues.
- Confirm next steps, including a growth plan.
Use growth-oriented language
Delivering negative feedback has two goals: ensuring alignment between managers and employees and finding a path toward growth. Negative feedback should be delivered (or received) as punishment. It’s just an acknowledgment of a problem and an opportunity for growth. The language you use when delivering this feedback should reflect that.
Standardize your process
When your organization reaches a certain size, fairness and trust depend more on standardized processes than personal conversations and agreements. Standardized performance reviews ensure everyone is treated fairly, while transparent feedback processes (i.e., how it’s delivered, not its content) build trust. While you can manually build and standardize these processes, a dedicated performance management platform like 15Five can automate much of this work.
Manager tips for performance reviews: Handling difficult reactions in real time
Despite all your preparation and standardized processes, you might still encounter difficult reactions when giving negative feedback to employees. Here’s how you can handle these reactions.
If the employee becomes defensive
Staying calm is crucial. If a manager starts verbally sparring with a defensive employee, the content of the conversation becomes more about finding winning arguments and less about common ground and growth. Focus on documented facts and ensure your tone doesn’t escalate the situation.
If the employee shuts down
When an employee starts to shut down, your first reaction should be to ask if they need a break before continuing the conversation. Ask if you need to leave the room to give them a moment to absorb what you’ve shared. Reinforce the idea that you’re trying to work with them to solve a problem, not coming down on them and judging them.
If the employee disagrees
When employees completely disagree with the feedback you’re sharing, give them a chance to fully explain their position. If you can find common ground between both perspectives, emphasize this in your conversation. Otherwise, remind them that you’re trying to focus on forward-looking solutions, not just trying to criticize them.
If emotions escalate
If emotions escalate to a certain point, there’s little to be done beyond pausing the conversation and, potentially, scheduling a follow-up. Offer an employee space to collect themselves. If the emotions remain, tell them you’ll schedule a follow-up conversation and end the performance review.
Performance review tips that strengthen leadership
Delivering negative feedback isn’t just a core responsibility for managers; it’s a sign of strong leadership. Properly sharing negative feedback depends on thorough preparation, clear communication, emotional intelligence, and follow-through. Managers who learn to use this kind of feedback as a growth opportunity and don’t shy away from sharing it build consistently stronger teams, and the organization will see the results of this more broadly.
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